Am I selfish for prioritising my happiness?
I get this question all the time because it’s one of the biggest fears most women have, and a belief that can sabotage you from achieving your goals without you fully realising it.
As a woman today we’re really good at putting everyone before ourselves, and our society actually encourages you to do this.
Many women worry they’ll be perceived as selfish for putting their happiness and needs before others, for example their partners, friends or children for example.
But let’s look at this a little more!
There’s two ways you can put yourself first, and the first is of course putting yourself before others at the expense of others, and the second is prioritising what makes you happy and healthy in order to give more to those around you and on a wider scale.
Because let’s be honest, if you’re not happy, can you honestly make your family happy?
But most women daren't ask the question about whether or not they're happy...
They simply live on auto-pilot day to day, filling their time with endless avoidance activities.
This is because if you admit you’re not happy, you have to admit that you need to change something, and then you have to be courageous and do the work.
It becomes apparent very quickly that only you can take responsibility for your happiness, and it’s essential you do in order to positively affect those around you.
Of course this can feel like a huge burden, and for many who are really locked in to, and invested emotionally (often unconsciously) in their limiting beliefs, extremely frightening.
So, how do you overcome these often quite complex thoughts and feelings around the ‘am I selfish for wanting to be happy’ question, why not simply take the pressure off a little by asking, what example do I want to set in the world? Either for your colleagues, partner, or children…
What influence do you want to lead by?
If you were to die tomorrow, what legacy would you like to leave behind?
People pay attention to what you do, and how you behave on a day to day basis. If you want to influence anyone at all, especially those closest to you, you need to prioritise your health, happiness and dreams and lead by example.
They will learn by seeing you walk the talk.
So whether you’re a manager, a mum, a teacher, a partner or meditation teacher and a coach, If you truly want to help others, or contribute to changing the world in any way, then you have to make sure you’re living by example and showing everyone around you that anything is possible.
Walk your talk!
So is it selfish to prioritise your happiness?
Absolutely not! In fact, it’s the best way you could possibly contribute to truly helping others and changing the world..
Now I’d love to hear from you, have you been putting everyone before yourself?
Let me know in the comments below what from today forward on are you going to prioritise to make you happy?
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