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How to Be Happy In 10 Steps

Defining Happiness

What does the word “happiness” mean to you? What emotions does it evoke, and what images spring to mind when you reflect on it? In your experience, what would you say are the key ingredients of true happiness?

Take a moment, close your eyes, and consider what this concept means for you.

The concept of happiness is big business right now, especially with a whole new psychology field exploding in this specific area...

It seems everyone is googling how to be happy...

From my experience as a woman, mother, and mental health expert, the following are the key steps to true and lasting happiness, and they may not be what you think...

What Are the 10 Steps to True and Lasting Happiness?


1. Intentionally Practice Gratitude

Studies show that intentionally choosing to cultivate a sense of gratitude for all trials, tribulations, people and possessions in your life has a powerful impact on your happiness level, making it one of the major keys to happiness. By shifting your focus towards the good in your life, even the seemingly crappy times, can make you happier. 

2. Be Intentional With Your Kindness and Compassion

Another crucial element of well-being comes through expressions of kindness and caring towards others. Indeed, numerous studies show that giving to others, whether through formal volunteer work or other means, is one of the most powerful ways to be happy.

3. Practice Intentional Self-Compassion

Around 80% of people tend to be harder on themselves than they are on others. Unfortunately, this sort of self-criticism takes a tremendous toll on your well-being. Self-Compassion—learning to treat yourselves with kindness and caring—has been shown to have powerful benefits on your mental and physical health.

4. Make Time For Mindfulness

Some studies suggest that we spend roughly half of our waking hours mentally detached from the present moment; in other words, we may be physically in one place, but mentally we are somewhere else. This same research suggests that the more your mind wanders, the less happy you'll be. Mindfulness, which is the ability to be present centred in the moment and not caught up in your thoughts and emotions—has been shown to have immense benefits to your happiness and well-being, along with your physical health too.

5. Intentionally Cultivate Optimism

We’ve all heard it said that it’s best to see the glass as “half full,” but recent research really does prove the importance of optimism for your mental and physical well-being. Indeed, optimists tend to be both happier and healthier than pessimists across many different areas.

6. Be Intentional In Your Relationships

We live in a world of infinite connection these days thanks to technology and social media. Unfortunately, some studies suggest that the quality of your interpersonal connections has deteriorated as the quantity has gone up. This is unfortunate because much research shows that one of the best ways to finding happiness is to enhance the quality of your closest interpersonal relationships.

Think about it... for me writing this it's July 2020 and we're only just coming out of lock down after months of isolation from our family and friends. It's taken its toll on my emotional health for sure, and the past weekend I got to see my family for the first time, this made such a huge difference to my mood and sense of happiness. Just this one difference, it may seem small, but it's huge.

7. Practice Forgiveness

When you are hurt, anger is a natural response, because it's a natural response to fear. But holding onto anger for months, or even years undoubtedly has a toxic effect on your mental and physical health. One of the secrets on how to live a happy life is learning to let go of anger and practicing intentional forgiveness instead. This by itself has been linked to a number of powerful benefits for your whole health and happiness.

8. Always Live By Your Strengths

Learning to identify and harness your own personal strengths is one of the many ways to be happy. In fact, it has been shown to have a number of benefits when it comes to boosting your own level of happiness and achieving a greater sense of meaning and purpose in your lives.

9. Intentionally Appreciating Your Positive Experiences

Sometimes good things can happen in your lives but you quickly move onto the next thing. Similarly, because negative experiences have a much more powerful effect on you, it’s easy to lose sight of the good experiences that might occur each day. The skill of intentionally appreciating is one of the main keys to happiness as it helps you to amplify and draw out positive and pleasant experiences, to better allow them to “sink in” from a happiness standpoint.

10. Intentionally Care For Your Body and Whole Health

You have nothing if you don't have your health. Among the many ways to be happy the most essential is taking good care of yourself. During times of stress, it’s particularly easy to lose sight of self-care, and your health is one of the first areas to suffer. By attending to your sleep, exercise patterns, and even the food that you eat, you can lay the groundwork for increased happiness and well-being.

For help and support with whole health self care I use essential oils and quality whole food supplements. This allows me to take care of myself emotionally, physically and spiritually. 

Because you live in a toxic busy chaotic world you need a little help and that's ok. Email me on [email protected] for brief wellness consultation to see how you can benefit from the essential oils and whole food supplements I recommend and personally use.




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