'If you do not bring forth what is inside you, what is inside you will destroy you' - Gospel of Thomas.
In this episode it's all about understanding your shadow, your ego and your True Self.
In order to heal yourself you must know yourself... and this isn't just limited to understanding your core beliefs and watching your thoughts.
True self awareness, and consciousness is being courageous enough to see and own your shadow...
So, what's your shadow?
Well if your ego is the fear based part of your personality, your shadow is everything your ego fears.
It's your deepest shame, guilt, hated and inner torment, and left unseen it projects unconsciously from you in to your world.
Jung the famous psychologist said we must integrate our shadow to reach self actualisation.
In Buddhism and Christ Consciousness spiritual practices, this is to reach full conscious awareness and acceptance of your whole self... warts and all.
Ignored, the shadow manifests in to self sabotaging...
So as most of you know, I’ve been prepping for the biggest launch of my business for months now and running up to Christmas it was intense and right now I’m in post launch strategy mode.
And already I’ve had a huge lesson and growth spurt about understanding my ego and self some more.
So far it’s been filled with some intense up’s and downs and I’ve had moments of just wanting to quietly give up, but then I remember if I do, I’ll be giving in to my ego fear…
One of my biggest ego triggers is feeling like I’m failing because that’s what’s really tied in to a very toxic core belief I have, that I’m not good enough, I’m just not smart enough, and so I just have a hissy fit, cry a lot and give up, or I retreat, and make excuses like I just don’t have the time with having to take care of my kids and have a job, or it’s so unfair because that person has everyone on her side.
All the excuses you...
The end of the year is always a fantastic time for reflection, and this year we're ending a whole decade!
If you don't know where you've been, you can't plan for where you want to go... especially if you're trapped in the past by your passed emotions...
Your emotions are like a time machine and left unchecked either keep you in the past repeating old behaviours and habitual patters, or projecting in to the future often creating a future in your mind that's based on the past...
To escape this you have to have full awareness of where you came from and how those emotions were created in the first place...
Tune in to this episode for my time line exercise and decade in review reflective practice.
Here's to making the next ten, the best ten! xx
To always think of changing oneself is like saying something's wrong with me therefore I need to change me... But that's not true and that's why that kinda thinking doesn't get you anywhere, goals are never brought to fruition and healthy life changing routines and practices never last!
Trust me when I tell you, you're perfectly imperfect!
But that's not to say you don't have a few fear based behaviours, or make fear based choices that need a little more clarity and refocusing maybe even letting go of because they just don't serve you!
Tune in to this weeks podcast episode where I tell all, and even give you a 3 point exercise to get you started on the empowering and super life changing reflective practice of WHY, and even your own funeral...
Be warned this is a life changer. When you finally see with open eyes, it's really hard to shut them again and forget what you've just fully seen!
So Tis the season to have to catch up with people you usually avoid...
Whether it's with family members, old friends, or just at the awkward Christmas School fair... It's at this time of the year where You're often plunged in to the face to face deep end of having to make small talk with someone who you don't like, or that just makes you feel uncomfortable.
It's at these times that our ego minds go wild in a frenzy to keep us from stepping out of our comfort zone and staying nice and cosy by the fire...
But sadly it's not always that easy... so what do you do?
Have a little warm me up drink or two to give yourself a little self confidence right?
And there's no judgement here... as always...
However, as you know, relying on that can often bring more trouble than it's worth, it's also difficult to know when to turn that tap off.
So instead, why not try my very quick and simple exercise in todays episode...
I guarantee it'll have you going from seen or heard, to feeling super...
The other day I was working on my launch for my online F*ck Fear 8 week course which starts in January 2020!
I started to feel over-whelmed, there's not much time between now and when I want to launch it, as this realisation set in I started to feel my heart pounding in my chest, and started to get thoughts that I wasn't going to make it in time, that I was going to fail!
And I started to panic and feel the pinch of stress...
I was triggering my fight, flight freeze... inevitably if I didn't calm myself my emotions would over spill and effect my behaviour!
And so I choose to STOPP...
Tune in to this weeks podcast episode to learn the acronym STOPP and how it can help you when you feel over-whelmed too.
There's a lot of shouting about the importance of being resilient in the mental health arena right now...
But what does it mean to be resilient?
Well, emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to a highly stressful situation or crisis.
People who are more resilient are capable of adapting to adversity. Resilient people can manage the stress caused by life changes, whether they are large or less significant.
So how do you become more resilient?
In this episode I give you 5 spiritual ways to be more emotionally resilient in your life.
Balance is often misconceived in our culture today.
We always talk about achieving the right amount of work life balance, and really only focus on what I call self care! Telling ourselves we need to find the right amount of time spent between bubble baths or and work, or relaxed time with our family and work... But here's the thing.
If you're mind is stressed, anxious, frustrated or you suffering with low moods and depression, it's not because you need more relaxation time, it's because your mind is run by your ego mind, and you're not engaged in what I call an authentic life, you're not living from the True Self.
In this episode I tell you exactly what real balance is, and believe me it's an inside job, not an outside one!
Your emotional health can directly influence how the rest of your body feels and functions. When you're in emotional distress, it lowers your overall quality of life and how you feel day-to-day. Your emotional health affects how you make decisions, how you interact with others, and how you respond to events that happen in your life.
Things like stress, anxious feelings, changes in the weather, and a host of troubling (yet common) emotions can negatively influence your mood.
No matter what's distressing you, it's important to find natural non toxic tools and coping methods to help counteract negative emotions—otherwise these negative emotions can seriously impact your quality of life.
You can use essential oils for emotional health support by creating a sense of calmness and wellbeing, or producing an uplifting environment.
Every essential oil has its own unique chemical profile, but most oils can be categorised as having either uplifting or calming...
"A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you've always known you can be"
Being coachable is one of life's most important skills and attitudes you can intentionally cultivate and it's not just restricted to athletes like you may actually believe!
If you're any kind of person who wishes to grow, learn, improve, excel or or just be happy, you should care about whether or not you're coachable.
In other words, being coachable relates to a happy, productive life.
To be coachable means you're ready to do what it takes to change, transform, improve or excel, in whatever way that means for you and your situation.
Tune in to this episode to find out whether you're coachable or not, and if not, how you can be starting today!
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